When you’re a part of a couple, dealing with difficult issues becomes a part of the process. No one likes to sit down for an awkward conversation but, in the end, dealing with issues head on can help not only resolve the issue at hand, but also improve your relationships. Couples who address challenges as a team are stronger and forge an emotional bond which connects them on a deeper level. Still, when your partner is struggling with early ejaculation, breaking the ice to discuss it is no easy task.
We Need to Talk
If your partner isn’t saying anything about his performance, it may be up to you to put the issue on the table. Many women don’t know much about male performance conditions so this can be more than a little intimidating at first. Here we’ve brought together five simple but effective tips that can help you prepare for the conversation and get the ball rolling towards a healthy and long-term resolution.
- Do Your Homework.
First things first – know what you’re talking about. Do some homework on the common causes of early ejaculation as well as treatment options, including Do It yourself options and medical options which require a doctor’s appointment. Premature ejaculation is an exceedingly common condition so there is a wealth of information. Dig through some articles and jot down the main points. You’ll need to refer back to these as you develop your own strategy for this, so save the websites and links you find.
- Consider Your Partner
Every case of premature ejaculation is as unique as the man dealing with it. Now that you’ve read about common causes, consider which is most likely for your partner. Does he have a job that piles on the stress with deadlines and multiple projects? Has he stopped working out, playing sports or engaging in other regular physical activity? Are there problems in his family or in your relationship? Considering these kinds of questions can help you get a better idea of a possible cause and, in turn, help you to choose a potential first step.
- Know What You Want to Say and Have a Plan
As you prepare to have the conversation, make sure you have an idea of what to do as a first step. Confronting your partner about the issue is difficult enough but having some options for ways to take active steps to address this challenge will help him to see that you’re not attacking him – you’re on his side. By having the research ready on common causes as well as a few options of proactive steps you can take together, it solidifies your role as a supporting partner, not just someone who is pointing out what’s wrong.
- Establish Your Support
When you begin the conversation, don’t address early ejaculation as something he has done or something he needs to fix. It’s a problem you both have as a part of this couple and make it clear that you’re ready to help him through the process. This could mean promising to help him make better choices when it comes to diet, joining him in physical activity or simply being there to listen when he needs to vent and unleash some stress.
- Commit to the Process
Early ejaculation is a common but complex issue. There are no true quick-fixes to dealing with the condition and the journey to long-term success is often filled with false starts. There are some ways to improve stamina more quickly such as numbing gels, special condoms and the off-label use of certain medications. Make it clear to your partner that you’re in this for the long haul and that he can count on your for support throughout the process. By handing the challenge this way you’ll strengthen your bond to each other and ultimately emerge from this stronger, happier and more committed than ever before.