Run a quick online search for ‘what women want’ and you’ll get over a million different links, each with their own take on what women want. The fact is every woman
is different and what one wants more than anything, another is itching to get away from.
So what’s a guy to do? Simple – once you know how to interpret a woman’s cues and clues you’ll be able to keep your woman happy by giving her what she wants, even if she doesn’t know what it is yet.

While every woman is different, there are some things pretty much every girl wants when it comes to sexual performance.

• Don’t Rush to the Main Attraction – Foreplay isn’t just something you have to go through to get to sex. Many women enjoy the teasing, seductive, erotic fun that foreplay brings. Savor the moment of touching every inch of her skin, reveling in being next to her. For guys who cope with premature ejaculation, prolonging foreplay can improve your stamina over time. In the short term, it ensures your partner will be fully satisfied even if premature ejaculation cuts things short later.

• Ladies First – If you have to ask a woman if she had an orgasm, then she didn’t. Even if your partner isn’t especially vocal or demonstrative when it comes to her own sexual satisfaction, you should be able to tell if she got off. If she’s strictly a no-noise kind of girl, encourage her to be more vocal in bed. Ask her direct questions (“You like that?”, “How does this fee”, etc.) and encourage any physical reaction she has (“Look how wet you are”, “I love when you grind against me”, etc.)

• Keep it Fun – Too often, sex becomes a bit heavy, especially for couples who have been together for a while. Sometimes problems like premature ejaculation add tension to a couple’s sex life. Other times, it’s simply the result of being together for so long. Shake off the doldrums and introduce toys, role play or other means of making sex different and fun. Not every idea will be a home run so go into each experience with an open mind.

Beyond this foundation of good sexual etiquette, you can learn about what your woman is interested in by following a few simple steps.

Step One: Communication

The best way to find out what your woman wants is, of course, to simply ask. Open communication between two people is the cornerstone of any healthy relationship. Many couples are open to discussing every aspect of their life together – from who empties the dishwasher to the best way to budget for their vacation – but when it comes to sex they suddenly get quiet.

Sex has always been something of a taboo topic so it’s no surprise that people aren’t comfortable discussing it openly. Make it easier for her to open up about her fantasies by sharing some of yours. If you’re worried she’ll think your fantasies are too wild, start with the small stuff. You never know – she may have fantasies that surprise you.

Step Two: Detective Work

Since talking about sex can be a bit awkward at first, it’s worth doing a bit of clever observation to get some insight. This isn’t about spying on your partner or violating her trust – we’re not going to be dipping into her diary or trying to hack her email.

Instead, check out all her social media profiles and look at the topics, movies, books or shows she has listed as her likes. Check out her bookshelf for books like Lady Chatterley’s Lover, Outlander, Delta of Venus or Emmanuelle.

Step Three: Watch and Listen

When you start looking around and paying attention to what your partner says and does, you’ll see all sorts of little cues about her sexual interests. By acting on these, you’ll also be able to notice how she reacts to them almost immediately. Tweak your approach and new ideas based on how she reacts. Better yet, use those reactions as a springboard to start a conversation about your sex life.