Men spend a lot of time, money and energy chasing after women who drive them crazy. It’s a facet of human development and emotional relationships that has been with us forever and always will. But even though men will go to great length to get the woman of his dreams, he’s a lot less likely to open up and talk to her when he starts to have problems with his sexual health. This is especially true for men who find themselves struggling with premature ejaculation.

Premature Ejaculation – How Women See It

A study published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior dealt with the issues of premature ejaculation for 461 men between the ages of 18 to 74 and also the perspective of 80 of their female partners. The researchers found that overall, concerns and stress about premature ejaculation was higher with men than it was with women. The study found that men’s satisfaction was directly linked to how many thrusts they could complete before ejaculation and the total time spent actually having sex. Satisfaction rates for women, however, were tied more closely to the satisfaction of their partners and their level of distress correlated with their level of distress as well.

How This Study Can Help Your Recovery

Premature ejaculation can happen for a number of reasons. One of the most common causes is a combination of stress and emotional pressure. For many men part of this stress and pressure is born out of a concern their partner isn’t being satisfied. This study may help many men relieve part of that stress which can help with their treatment for premature ejaculation.

This study shows that women are sitting in silent judgment of men. On the contrary, their own satisfaction is directly linked to the satisfaction of their partner. This means that men can feel safer and more confident about opening up to their girlfriend of wife and asking for her help and support as they look for treatment options. That’s one of the few good things about premature ejaculation – it’s a treatable condition and once which many men face at one point or another.

Finding Ways to Talk about Premature Ejaculation

Having a conversation about premature ejaculation is never easy. It’s a sensitive subject and one which can be difficult to discuss openly, even with a doctor. But taking that step and opening the lines of communication can help you in your own recovery and it can mitigate the damage done to a personal relationship. In fact, many couples who address the problem together find that dealing with premature ejaculation can actually strengthen their relationship and deepen their emotional bonds. When you’re getting ready to talk about this issue, there are a few things you can do to make talking about it easier and to help make the conversation more productive.

• Don’t Sugarcoat. This isn’t the time to put a positive spin on what you’ve been going through. Be open, honest and direct about the problem you’re having and the way you feel about it.
• It’s No One’ Fault. Although premature ejaculation is often caused, at least in part, by stress, this isn’t the time to point fingers. If your partner begins to assume blame, stop her right away. This conversation shouldn’t be about assigning blame, it’s about finding ways to deal with it as a team.
• Be Open to new Ideas. Your partner or a medical expert may suggest some treatment options which may initially sound weird to you. This can be anything from an exotic supplement to just basic yoga. Keep an open mind and as long as it’s not something that puts your health at risk, try it out. Even if you think it won’t work, simply being willing to try new treatments will help bolster your mood and your self esteem.
• Stay Calm. Talking about something as personal as premature ejaculation can be difficult. It’s an emotional issue and tempers can flare easily. If you feel yourself getting angry or upset, take a breather. There’s no need to have the entire conversation in one sitting. If things get too heated, call a truce and agree to talk about it later.

Talking to your partner about your condition can not only aid in your recovery, it can also work to improve your entire relationship. Premature ejaculation affects you as an individual and as a couple. Don’t try to resolve the problem on your own, let your partner help you and you’ll find the treatment options more effective and your emotional health better supported too.